The Magic Behind the Law of Attraction

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Have you thought of something so hard? Wanted something so bad? Dreamed it? Tasted it?  You knew it was yours, you were so sure, and then it was.  When I was little, I knew that if I prayed with fervor whatever I asked for it was mine.

I did not realize then what I know now; that I was using the law of attraction.  My energy, positivity, and knowledge that what I wanted will come true were fertile grounds for my dreams.  The years passed and I got older, a bit sarcastic, jaded by some life experiences and lost my mojo to attract the things that I wanted.

Fast forward to two years ago, and I came across the book ‘The Secret.’  The title sounded super mysterious like a Sue Grafton novel, and I was intrigued.  What was the secret to people attaining all their wishes?  I knew that hard work and perseverance make things happen.  I knew about not giving up.  What I did not know was that ‘The Secret’ was something as simple as wishing.

Here I was, thinking that those people with their visualization boards were crazy!  Instead, they are all part of The Secret!

People who visualize; see their dreams coming true, are the ones that are making things happen!

I know that some of you may have that ‘crazy’ friend that tells you about their big idea but don’t know how the heck they will do it.   You try to tell them about all the ‘what ifs’ scenario but they don’t care, they just know that they are going to write the greatest book about a young teenage wizard.   While they are telling you this, you are thinking ‘you can’t even afford a typewriter to write that book.’  JK Rowling anyone?

Those crazy dreamers are onto something! They are working with the law of attraction.

It’s like magic! No?

If you feel stuck right now or think that you are not getting anywhere, I suggest you read ‘The Secret.’  If you are not into reading, get it on audible.  If you are not into audible and have a Netflix subscription, it’s there! Watch it.  You can thank me later.

Create your vision board.  Make your dream house out of clay, imagine yourself walking through your beautiful red door, walking across the living room and stepping on your shiny hardwood floors, walking up the stairs and opening the door to your master bedroom.  Meditate on this, dream it, feel yourself there, and it will be yours.

It’s so easy! But you have to believe in it.  It’s like praying, you have to know in your heart that it is yours already.  Give thanks for it and continue to live your life.

When I was little this dreaming and knowing that my dreams will come true because God listens to me was so easy.  I was innocent, and I knew that everything I asked for, I deserve because I was a good girl.  So for sure, I will get it! Duh!

With adulting came some not so great moments where I lost that innocence, and I thought there were certain things I did not deserve nor should I have because maybe I’m not such a good person after all.  When I was wronged, I did not know how to forgive others.  When I wronged someone, I did not know how to forgive myself.  Holding grudges and self-hate polluted my heart.   I stopped asking with fervor, and I stopped expecting for the good things to come because surely I was not meant to have them.

Self-help book after self-help book, family, friends, and now my amazing husband have helped me to regain the peace in my heart and soul that I lost along the way.  I now know that I deserve all the good things to come and I know that they will come because I deserve them.

My husband was one of those things that I prayed for.  Two years ago, I wrote the characteristics of my husband in one of my notebooks.  I wrote a prayer for him, close the book and put it away.  I just knew he will come.  A year later this super annoying guy came to my job and would not leave me alone till I went on a date with him.  He courted me for months with Starbucks and lunch outings.  One day I decided to give him a shot, and the rest is history.  A beautiful dream that came true.

The Stepmommy Diaries

misunderstood evil queen
The Evil Queen, maybe she’s not so evil

Marrying a man with children comes with a great many surprises.  Four surprises to be exact, two of those are 4 and 5 years old.  We will call them Thing 1 and Thing 2.

The fact is that my Additional Babies (Thing 1 and Thing 2) were hard to love.  I know that sounds harsh but it’s true.  It was hard to develop a bond, with munchkins that I could not keep.  Afterall, how could I love something that was not mine?  I couldn’t answer that.

Each hello was exciting, nerve-racking and bittersweet because I knew that whatever we taught them would have been forgotten by their next visit or not practiced while they were gone.  I knew their visit would be temporary and I had to guard my heart and not become attached.

Being the Stepmommy was not all that I had imagined.  My expectations were crushed by the reality of the situation.  After a not-so-fun day with Thing 1 and Thing 2, I sat on the toilet and thought of how, maybe, we had all misunderstood Snow White’s Stepmom. She got such a bad rep!  At that time I could completely relate to her.

I can think of some of the times when Thing 1 and Thing 2 thought I was the Wicked Witch of the West:

 

  • Say ‘Please’ and ‘Thank you’.  No, you may not talk to your daddy as if you are his boss.  You must show respect in the manner you speak to him and always be kind to him.

 

  • Yes, you must clean after yourselves.  Even in the wee ages of 4 and 5, you must pick up and help around the house.  This may be your temporary house but it is still your house and you must maintain it cleaned and picked up.

 

  • When inside, use your inside voice.  So simple.  For yelling and jumping and getting the jitters out, we have this awesome backyard for you to play in.

 

  • Your job is to play and learn, do just that.  Electronics are not your sole source of entertainment, revert to #3…the awesome backyard.

 

  • You must read and write or scribble.  These two things will help you immensely as an adult and will make school more bearable.

 

  • No gossiping!  Playing mommy against daddy is not nice.  They both love you immensely all you have to do is love them back.

 

The relationship between me and my additional babies is one of the hardest I’ve ever had to work on.  I can honestly say that it did not come naturally.

 

It took me a while,

 

  • To get into the rhythm of two munchkins coming and going

 

  • Splitting my affection between my own teenager Munchkin and them

 

  • Accepting that my Prince Charming had others he split his love with

 

  • Letting go of the little things that bothered me but I could not change

 

  • Accepting their personalities, which are so different from mine and my own teenager Munchkin.

 

It’s a fine balance, almost like a dance being a Stepmommy.  To love but not overstep, to be there but not take over the role of the mother, to accept their natural personality but groom them to be a better version of that.

I’m still learning, I’m still growing.  Thing 1 and Thing 2 are helping, Prince Charming is helping, my own Munchkin is showing me how.  Everyone is so patient as I learn and get used to this new role and its lovely.  Wish me luck as I step into The Stepmommy shoes.

Walk the Talk

no whining allowed
Listen to Uncle Sam

One thing that gets under my skin is whiners.  Let’s not be a whiner, people.  I hear them everywhere.  Whining about their jobs, their situation, lack of money, their relationships.  You name it, if there is something to cry about, the Professional Whiner will find a way to complain.

What infuriates me the most is when the opportunity to change to do something different is thrown at them, better yet, given to them on a precious gold platter and they don’t take it.

PORQUE?!!!

It’s almost as if the Professional Whiner is content with complaining all the time; as if they prefer it that way.  Maybe their lives will feel empty if there is nothing to complain about.  Then who would hear them? What would they have to say? Would their lives have meaning? Without complaining?

It could be that they are afraid and find comfort in the habit they have developed:

 

  • don’t do anything

 

  • whine

 

  • get same results

 

  • whine

 

  • repeat

 

After all, taking a leap of faith takes a lot of courage.  Making that change will require a lot of it.  Changing that job, removing toxic people, going against the habit that’s been ingrained for years, boy that will take a mountain of courage!

I could see why it will be more comfortable to whine.  At least you know what’s coming, you know it’s going to suck, and then you get to complain about it, which is the reward.  Its a ritual and a self-fulfilling prophecy.

That energy used to complain usually brings about more things to complain about.  It’s almost like a cloud that surrounds the person alienates him and closes off all of the sunshine.  Only the rain comes thru nothing else.  Shoot, I would whine too!

But why not jump?  Why not close your eyes, inhale and fall?  What’s the worst that could happen?  Something bad happens again?  Then you will just get to whine some more like you’ve done before.  No big deal.

But what if something great happens?  What if with just a bit of hard work and some uncomfortable moments you walk that talk.  All those things that you complain about, you change them.  With one step in front of the other, you walk the path that you have not walked before to get a different set of results.  What if…

Super Moon

Beautiful full moon
Supermoon
At the start of this New Year, we will see a Super Moon or Wolf Moon.  The Super Moon is a full moon that is orbiting at its very closest point to earth.  This is why the moon seems so super, super huge that is.  Like you can see every crater and probably the US flag if you look closely.  Tonights Supermoon will be 221,559 miles from earth, which is super close.
Why does it get called a Wolf Moon?
Native Americans would call it this because wolfs would howl at the moon.
What about its superpowers?
There’s a certain type of energy that its attached to a full moon.  Energy is amplified during a full moon, this is probably why wolfs howl and so many incidents happen when there’s a full moon.  A Super Moon will have that energy times ten. This is the best time to meditate and to push out the negative emotions out and process them so that they don’t bubble up during this time.  The energy of the Super Moon can make what’s negative and bottled inside even worst.
On the flip side, if you are content and positive that day, the Super Moon’s energy will amplify that.  You will be giddy.  This is why its best to meditate and release all the bad in preparation of this beautiful moon’s appearance.
When will we get another one?
There will be another one on the 30-31 January, this one with an eclipse which will be even more magical.  
Find some time to clear your head, let go, think happy thoughts and let the Super Moon do the rest.
Have a magical night!

New Years Resolution

New Years resolutions
Happy New Years!
New Year, New me…BS.  If you scroll through my old posts you will see how I feel about this.  In a nutshell, you don’t need a New Year to change or do better, any day of the week will do.  Nonetheless, is a great symbolism.  January 1, or 1-1, master number 11 for those that know about numerology.  
 
The thing I want to master this year and for the rest of my life is happiness.
It’s so simple, I just want to be happy.  I want to do less of the ‘have to’ and more of the ‘want to’.  I feel like its such a simple idea yet so hard to do.  I’m an adult and I have responsibilities.  Those things that make adulting so exhausting.
How can I get away from responsibilities?
I mulled this question over in my head and the answer is I can’t, no one can unless you are stupidly rich and people do everything for you.  If you are a normal person, its part of being a grown-up, you are going to have to do it.  
 
Adulting means that you are going to be responsible for something other than yourself.  At the very least you will have a cell phone bill.  
 
So I figured since after the age of 18 one can’t get away from being an adult and we have to do this responsibility thing, I can at least put a positive spin on it.  Like putting sugar on the corn flakes, it tastes better that way.  After all, if I learn to like it then it will no longer be a ‘have to’ but a ‘want to’.  As a last resort If I can’t like it then I will change it.  
Each year that passes by reminds me how short life can be and living without joy is not the best way to live it.  Imagine me, gathering all my grandchildren to hear my life stories and all of them have to do with those things that I had to do.  I wouldn’t want to look back at that!  I definitely wouldn’t want to share that! Time to make up some stories grandma!
Wanting to be liked or accepted by others can push us to devote more time than we should on those things that do not bring us joy.  I love those memes that say “sorry I’m too busy, I made plans with my cats” or “ my Friday night consists of books and wine”.  I made up that last one.  But you get it! Do what makes you happy.  I’m not talking about being selfish and like a T-Rex stepping over everyone to get what you want with your tiny little hands.  That’s not what I am talking about.  I’m talking about being genuinely happy.  When I’m truly happy, I can be kind and be giving to others.  When I am not, I’m a nimbus cloud, raining on everyone.  That’s what I’m talking about.
There’s so much pressure to be so many different things that sometimes the hardest thing to say is “no”.  “No I don’t want to go, I’m going to take that time to decompress”.  You may love your solitude, you may love animals or you may love being surrounded by people, then do just that.
Once I came across a hello kitty notepad.  It was so lovely and I really wanted to buy it.  I put it in my cart and then I took it out.  My son saw me doing this and he asked me why.  I told him because I am too old to be getting that and someone may say just that.  He reminded me of the day I taught him to not care about others opinion and do what he knows is right and he turned that message right to me.  He told me “who cares mom, you like it, then get it who cares what other people think”.  I almost cried at the store.  Who would have known that my tidbit of mommy wisdom was getting through to this soon to be adult.  I grabbed my hello kitty notepad and bought it.  It cost me a whopping $2.36 and I was happy with my purchase.  No one said anything about my notepad, instead, I was asked where I found it.  So simple the idea of being happy, yet so hard to do sometimes.
Repeat this mantra “I love what I do and I do what I love”.  Happy New Years!

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