What is Beautiful?

What is Beautiful?

Yesterday I had those judgy girly conversations were we classify other women based on looks.  I want to say that this is a bad habit, but it is something often done by women.  However, I was quite surprised by my reaction.  As a matter of fact, I couldn’t stop thinking about it.  Someone whom the others thought was ugly I didn’t see as such and that one classified as attractive I couldn’t disagree more.  Why did the other women not see beauty the same way I was? 
I would like to point out that I don’t often judge people based on looks.  I do have my judgmental moments, but those are few and rare.  I am not sure if it’s because of I am getting older (and hopefully wiser) because I don’t like it when it’s done to me or a combination of both, but I just don’t feel comfortable doing it.   
For the most part, I judge others based on their personality.  The woman others thought was good looking, in my opinion, she was not.  To me, her character takes away from her looks.  I guess if I had seen her on the street without knowing her I would think she was pretty.  Having interacted with her, I don’t find her so beautiful.
Then, on the other hand, is the girl that the others tagged as ugly or more like unpleasant looking.  I thought she is a good looking girl! Most importantly she is kind, courteous and respectful.  These qualities totally won me over in the looks department!
Little to say I was completely confused and shocked by my reaction.  I thought that others think like me.  After having this conversation, I discovered that I was wrong.
I must admit, I do body-check a lot.  Being a work-out enthusiast, I do a once over on people….From top to bottom; toned arms—check, define shoulders—-nice! Peeking abs—-way to go! Lifted butt—I need your workout regime! Tone quads and calfs—high five!  
Imagine when I see the oppositive of that…it makes me want to go over to the person and do a mini nutrition/fitness session with them.  So I guess I am judgemental after all just in a different way.  In my defense, personality always wins against any physical quirk.
But my question is still there, what is beautiful?  I was reading a presentation on Facebook where scientists determined the perfect woman.  It was symmetry, a precise measurement between the eyes, nose and mouth that causes others to be attracted to that person.  
To me, beauty goes a little deeper than that.  To see beauty, I like to unzip the facade of the physical appearance and peek inside.  The thoughts, beliefs, and values of a person are what makes them beautiful or ugly.  A beautiful face turns ugly after listening to that person’s ideas, and thoughts.  What’s hidden inside the mind and comes out the lips can change my perception of someone very quickly.  An ‘Ugly Duckling’ who is kind is the most beautiful swan in the pond.

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